There is no limit to self improvement and while nobody can be perfect, it is good practice to constantly take steps towards becoming a better individual. Everybody wants to become better than they are currently and though the process would involve changes in lifestyle, thought processes and even some risk taking, it is well worth it. You need to take it as a challenge and once you are successful, you will notice that your own assessment of yourself goes up many notches and you are also more amiable to others.
So let us look at what you need to do to bring about positive changes in your personality.
1. WEIGH THE IMPACT YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS HAVE ON OTHERS
You must be alive to the fact that your words and actions carry some impact on those around you. In fact even when you speak harshly to somebody or honk needlessly irritated at the person in the front, you are causing disturbance to people in the surrounding. This result in a spin off effect and many more people get impacted. It is therefore extremely important to duly consider and pause before you utter something or act hastily.
Similarly your reactions to something harsh or rude should also be a measured one. If somebody does speak rudely to you, it is not necessary for you to shout back at him or her. If you counter such animosity with a smile, you would have dissipated any feeling of anger from the opposite person and you will also go back a satisfied and contented person feeling good about yourself. It obviously calls for great mental discipline and resolve, but can be achieved over time.
2. PAUSE AND REFLECT BEFORE SPEAKING
It is said that words can hurt an individual more than physical violence as scars borne out of violence will heal in due course but somebody hurt by a verbal volley will not be able to forget it so quickly. It is therefore very imperative for you to pause and think before you say anything harsh or react to a situation spontaneously. Though you may be right and honest in your response, it can create discomfort in the person to whom it is directed and that is why many wise men have recommended that you are supposed to think carefully before reacting with any action or words.
You only need to ponder about how you would feel if somebody were to use the same words against you and that should prevent you from saying anything in a rush.